At this age, you’ve come into your own and you’ve probably perfected your go-to moves that you use in order to get someone’s attention. Which is a good thing because the flirting techniques that you may have done as a teenager probably won’t work especially if you want to be taken seriously.
Of course, if you’re still unsure about how to grab the object of your affection’s attention, here are some tips that can help you get the attention you’re looking for.
1. Subtle gestures trump overt innuendo.
As a single person who is in their 50s, you want to follow the rule of less is always more, and this is especially true for flirting. Before when you were younger, you could get away with overt sexual innuendo, but now? Now your comments probably wouldn’t be received well. Instead of being over the top by wearing a shirt with a deep V, wear a scoop neck top and a necklace that is a little longer than usual so that the pendant rests just above your chest. This draws his attention to your breasts without it being glaringly obvious.
2. Use proper etiquette.
Good manners can work in your favor and it can be an excellent form of flirtation without resorting some stupid pick-up line. An older gentleman can usher his date through the door with a hand on the small of her back, he can pull her chair out for her and even checks her coat. Also, at this age, women can even initiate these types of gestures by reaching for his arm while they are walking down the sidewalk. These things may seem dated to the younger crowd, but at this point in your life, they are just charming.
3. Be honest.
Forget whatever pick-up line you intended to use and simply be honest with someone. You can never go wrong with telling someone that you find them attractive and would love to share a meal with them, and perhaps get to know each other. If you aren’t interested, you don’t have to come up with a bad excuse, you can simply tell them the truth in that you aren’t interested.
4. Look and Smile
When you are perfecting your flirtation technique, you can never go wrong with a quick peek and a genuine smile. In fact, this is so perfect, it can work no matter how old you are. Do this a couple times if you have to until they notice you. This tactic sends to message that you are available and you are, in fact, checking them out.
5. Play up the physical cues.
You can’t go wrong when you send off the obvious “approach me” body language cues. These cues can be as simple as touching your hair along your neck, running your hand seductively along the side of you neck, tracing your finger around the rim of your wine glass, or even mimicking their actions. You know you’ve hooked the other person when they turn their body toward you and are noticeably more aware of your actions. When that happens, you know you’ve got their attention and it’ll only be a matter of time before they are asking you out on a date.